Dear Sabina & Bona,
I had to write this letter because I knew that all the things I wanted to say would not fit in my thank you card. Plus, my handwriting is atrocious!
It is so unfortunate that you both could not have known mom when she was able to speak. She had a wonderful personality and was full of warmth and love for people. I guess that showed in her smile. It was the hardest thing for me when she stopped smiling. At least I knew what was in her heart.
Thank you for the excellent care you went out of your way to give my mother. When nurses remark repeatedly how wonderful her skin looked when she was in the hospital, you know excellence in care is not always the norm with AFH, ALFs, and SNFs. I especially appreciated the family atmosphere that prevails in your home. It made such a difference for mom. Her birthday celebrations made for wonderful memories, especially with the gentleman who sang her favorite song to her.
I always felt like I could trust you to catch the subtle changes in her condition and alert me immediately for a decision on the course of action. That kind of response only comes when you really get to know a resident rather than just administering care to them.
I appreciated that you made her the smoothies for lunch. It’s hard to be on a blenderized diet and any time you can spark those taste buds into action is a real treat, especially when you enjoy eating as much as mom did.
Finally, thank you for putting up with her daughter’s frequent requests. When you have lovingly cared for someone as long as I cared for mom. You how she liked things done and you want to keep it going – for a sense of continuity and familiarity. Giving up the control of the care of a loved one to others is extremely difficult and one has to go through it to understand the multiple emotions it engenders. Thank you for being understanding in this regard and for not making me feel like the impossible daughter I must have seemed.
Thank you for being so committed to the work you do. May God bless your ministry.